“I hate my job”, these are words that I hear quite often from my peers. And while I cannot relate because I loveee my job, I can understand the sentiment. For me it would be more like, I hate exercising. It’s something that you have to do but you hate doing it, so I get it.

But, the interesting thing about having a miserable job or doing whatever is that you hate but feel obligated to is that you have complete control over your response to it.

Stay with me, I promise we’re not headed to delulu land. In this post, I’m going to walk you through some practical steps that will help you to change your mind and live a happier life.

Having a job that you hate can cause major stress and negatively impact the quality of your life. So, it’s really important to take the necessary steps to address the issue head-on. 

i hate my job angry black woman screaming in room
Photo by Liza Summer

I’m currently a little more than half-way through my 75-Hard journey and I can’t even begin to tell you the struggle of it all. But the one thing that helps me tremendously is just knowing that it has to get done. It’s really that simple.

However, If I decided to quit right now because the pain is unbearable, I could just quit. That simple. However, just like quitting a job, there could be major consequences that come with that decision. Consequences that you should be prepared for in response to that decision. 

So let’s get into some steps you can take to navigate your discomfort at work. 

Step 1 – Assess the root cause: Why are you saying, I hate my job?

Sis, why do you hate your job? Do you have an annoying boss? Low pay? Nosey co-workers? Are you experiencing burnout? Do you want to climb the corporate ladder and leaders aren’t giving you a chance? Or maybe you just don’t like working…. (In this case, skip to the last step).

Either way, asses why you hate the work you do and maybe you’ll have a better chance at coming up with a solution.

Step 2 – Explore your options: can the issue be resolved?

Once you figure out the root cause, it’s time to get to work. If you’re anything like me, with every issue, my brain goes in overdrive to find the quickest/simplest solution. If your job pays low, ask  for a raise, but make sure your brag folder is healthy enough to do so.

If it’s not, then step it up and work and keep track of your wins. If you’re being overworked, set some boundaries with yourself and your employer and/or use that PTO.

If your pressed for money and don’t have PTO or money for vacation, only work within your work hours and literally turn your mind off of work after you get off. If you want to move up and leaders aren’t taking you seriously, move on to step 3. 

depressed young ethnic female embracing pillow and crying sitting on cozy sofa
Photo by Liza Summer – I hate my job

Step 3 – Consider alternatives: Is it time to seek a new opportunity?

It might be that time sis, time to get real uncomfortable and look for a new role. Figure out what you need to do to move on. You may need to get a new license, certification or additional training. Refresh your resume or LinkedIn and put yourself out there for employers to find you.

If you have resources, pay a professional to update your professional profile to make you more marketable. I know a girl, Edi Hayes, who does an AMAZING job at this. 

Another option is to start your own business. But wait… before you jump headfirst. Understand that you have to have a great deal of discipline and self determination to accomplish this and earn a livable income. If you have what it takes, this may be a great option for you.  

However, if starting a business is not your ministry, and you’re not in a position to find a new job, move on to the next step. 

Step 4 – Time for a mindset Shift: Finding peace and purpose

black woman wearing white lace shirt and black bottos
Photo by Artsy Solomon

Sometimes you just have to accept the facts of life. My guy friend told me once, “I don’t enjoy having to do certain things in my life but I don’t think too much about it because I know it has to get done.” That put a lot into perspective for me, especially with things I know I can’t change immediately.

You have choices, you can be mad and full of negativity around the job you hate; or you can accept that this is your life at the moment and be grateful for what you do have. Take extra pleasure in your hobbies and spending time with people you love.

Settle in this mindset in your waiting season. The universe has a way of connecting you to the things you want when you’re exuding positive and grateful vibrations. 

There’s one more option…. 

Emergency Step – If all else fails…

I get it, sometimes things just don’t work out and you feel totally uninspired with the thought of working a job. I have a friend who has no interest in working. She desires to just raise her daughter and spend her days doing whatever she wants.

I somewhat envy her, then I remember, my idle mind is not a safe space and I want riches.

She’s fully supported by her husband, and they live a very simple life. She has tried to work different jobs in the past but truly hated the motions of going to work, answering to leadership and everything else involved in having a job. She knew early on, working a job was just not for her. If this sounds like you… you may need to find a partner who is willing to support that decision. Your lifestyle will obviously depend on the income of your partner so make sure you’re both on the same page with that.

Another option is to move to a country where the cost of living is dirt cheap. Basically, you have hella options. If you hate your job, you can change your circumstances or just change your mind.


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